Month: November 2019

Despite my first thought of not allowing my children to watch frozen 2 I decided to take them tonight. I heard rumors that Elsa is made out to be gay in the second movie. I had decided I would not allow my kids to see it but after a friend said she saw it and didn’t see anything of concern I thought it would be a good way to start out Thanksgiving break.

I am writing a review on the movie from a Christian momma’s perspective. I just want to give my honest opinions about what I saw and my thoughts about it.

Before I went I saw an article about it too. Definitely not written from a christian perspective but it did give me some understanding into the reason why those ideas have been floating around.

I will likely spoil most of the movie so don’t read this if you want to be in suspense on how it ends.

My Review

I really enjoyed the movie. I noticed my 4 year old kind feeling stressed by the drama. It was a lot more intense than the first one. There is a song Anna sings that is very mature. It talks about grief and being lonely and feeling darker than she has ever felt. I don’t really think those words are appropriate for a child’s song. Yet I do think they would likely go over the heads of most children and possibly if an older child is feeling those way the song could inspire them to push through those feeling like Anna did.

The songs Elsa sings are more mature and I can see how someone watching the movie can start to get the idea that the voice she hears calling is her inner voice telling her shes not in the right place… maybe that she is gay. But by the end you figure out that it is her mothers voice telling her she is the “5th spirit” in the enchanted forest and that is where she belongs.

There are no specific inclinations that Elsa is gay. She doesn’t kiss a girl or hold hands with one. The girl she has a talk with around the fire has no kind of relationship with her past telling her about the 5 spirits and encouraging her to search out the voice that keeps calling to her.

In the end the story tells how her parents met and how her mother was the one who saved her dad from the enchanted forest and that is how she got her powers.

All in all it may be a little mature for my 4 year old to get all the funny things about the movie. There were parts I thought were funny because I am an adult (no adult humor) kristof sings with reindeer as his backup singers and it reminded me of a boy band type song. HAHA. Anna and kristoff only kiss maybe 2 or 3 times and Olaf sings about how nice it will be to be mature. He does say Butt. That is the only word that I remember hearing during the movie.

I would recommend it. If your kids get scared easily it may be too intense. Most of the movie is intense. Would I want to watch it over and over? no. Will I buy it ? no. But is there any evidence that Elsa is gay? Absolutely not. She’s just not your typical boy crazy Disney princess. Shes more serious. The emphasis is on sister love and not on romantic love.

I hope this helps. I also hope it isn’t ruined for you. Don’t get mad at me if you take your kids and get a different interpretation. This is just what I came back with.

Thanks for reading

Signing off

Jenny Wren

I never thought I struggled with anxiety before. I thought I was a confident person. Even the most confident people can be anxious on the inside. I am realizing as I go through this journey that I have more anxiety than I thought I did. I think for me, anxiety stems from feeling out of control when I want to be in control. Though the ways to deal with anxiety is giving over control to God.

I remember my first anxiety attack, When I was a new mom. I am not even very sure how old my baby was but I was hyperventilating on my bed because I didn’t know what to do with his crying. I am sure I was sleep deprived (because usually that factors into my anxiety) and I didn’t know how to deal with this screaming child.

As life went on, I dealt with my father’s death. This was another time I prayed for Gods healing but He never gave it to my father and my dad went to be with Jesus anyway. Another way I couldn’t control. Then I had my husband in the hospital with seizures the same weekend. I really started to try to muster the courage to be strong and stay strong. I had to, for my little family. I then had our second son. I never dealt with the death of my dad. I didn’t have time to. I was caring for my children and my sick (on and off ) husband. Over the next 3 years I had another boy and My husband dealt with 2 more bouts of seizures. Some multiple times a day and mostly at night when I was almost asleep. He was down for 2 weeks at a time unable to help with anything. I had to do it all. I remember trying to go to sleep scared that he was going to have a seizure. They were terrifying. I had to not think about it. One night My dear husband remembers me squeezing his thumbs really hard in my sleep (it was a method for bringing someone out of a seizure faster) He asked me in the morning and we kinda laughed that I was even dreaming about tending to his seizures. Was I going to trust God or fall into more self reliance and anxiety because I couldn’t control all of this.

We were not only dealing with the seizures but the medication that altered my husband personality too. He was having outburst of anger and to me seemed out of control. Was that something I just couldn’t control myself? This caused more anxiety. I didn’t know when he would be angry for something “childish” the children would do. He was extremely sensitive to loud noises in confined places and things would get heated especially in the car. Was it HIS anger “problem” or ME not being able to talk him out of it or “lecture” him out of it. My control.

Over the next 7 more years he was seizure free but our marriage took a turn for the worse. We became more distant and there were things that happened that were lied about and trust was broken. Could I lecture him out of it or control this either? My daughter was born and nothing seemed to make him happy anymore. I had lectured his happiness away. He has his own things going on that I will not go into here this story is about me.

When our marriage got so bad that we were both at odds with each other I had to come to grips with the fact that I had to let God take control of my husbands life and I had to step back to let him do it. I think he came to expect me to control everything. I did everything. I eased everything over I smoothed things out and tried to keep the peace.

Its phenomenal when you finally let God take control of your own life. When the kids and I went to my home town and stayed at the camp. I had nothing. My mom wasn’t around , I had to allow God to take my life. Was I going to? It was a fight. I was so full of anxiety. I had no idea what the future would hold and I had 4 little children relying on me to figure it out. I had a very angry husband at home wanting badly for us to return.

I knew I was in the right place. I needed to get away and be in a peaceful place for awhile to figure all of it out. I started reading a book about being thankful for the little things each day and it really transformed my heart and life. I realized I needed to be thankful in the storm. I wrote in my journal for hours each day and read my bible after I went through about two weeks of just being angry. I was angry at my life, my situation, my bad choices, my husbands bad choices. I couldn’t control. I was angry I felt so alone when all I wanted was a rescuer. I wanted my mom very badly to come in and rescue me to take care of me. She wasn’t there. God wanted me to let him take care of me. Give him control. take my anxiety and give it to him.

So I started listening to a prayer meditation. It says God is in control of every situation and He wants us to give control to him and allow him to take our life. So I did. I gave God that control. or in my human way I did. But it is a constant process because here I sit. I still want a rescuer most days. I am tired and worn and alone. But God wants me to continue to give him the control every day. Its not just a one time deal. Its every day. So to continue to learn how to release my anxiety to God I picked up this book called, A small book for the anxious heart by Edward T Welch.

I started reading it today. It talked about how He wants to take these anxieties from us. The author asks what kinds of things you have done that has helped with anxiety in the past. and really that is the way to deal with it. If you can have an arsenal of tools to help you through the anxiety it will pass a lot quicker. But also I try to reflect on where I think the control is at. The other night I was feeling anxious and I just started writing out the things God has been doing in my family and life. Its amazing how my mourning over my poor self and my selfish thoughts that no one sees me changed into thoughts of what God is doing and who he is and how wonderful he is.

This is a song that always brings me out of my slump of feeling sorry for myself and my situation

https://youtu.be/SE_M9noEhNE

So what about you? How do you handle anxiety? I deal with anxiety most days. I want to be in control of my situation, but I can’t. God wants me to allow him to be in control over me and all of my situation. When I let him have control of my life I have confidence in him and who he is that this is part of his plan for my life and I can make it through the next minute, hour, day. But when I try to take control I am riddle with anxiety over it all.

I highly recommend the book. But if not give it to God each day. What is holding you back from letting him take it. I mean all of it. Do you think you need to be a certain way to God? He loves you even in the brokenness and the anger and all the words that go with it. Just scream it out. He is ready to listen.

Signing off

Jenny Wren